Sex & Intimacy Coaching Blog
My Writings on Sex & Intimacy
My interview with Pleasure Rising Podcast host Sarah Marie Liddle on getting your mojo back in a long-term relationship and becoming a sexually liberated woman.
Women have been taught to discount what and how we feel and that disconnect makes it hard to receive pleasure in our bodies. Sex & intimacy coach, Irene Fehr, explains a practice to help connect to your body and receive pleasure.
Popular advice for reigniting sexual intimacy tells us to up the ante on date nights and such. Yet when it comes to intimacy, smaller is better.
Explore the psycho-somatic reasons for why penetration sex can feel painful and how to tune into your body to reverse that with Irene Fehr, sex & intimacy coach.
Most women experience painful sex and intercourse at some point in their lives. While there may be medical reasons, for most women the answer lies in the question: how turned on are you? Watch this video to learn which questions you should be asking yourself to see if you're fully turned on for penetration and what to do about it.
When relationships falter, this goes south. Couples resort to complaining and can’t find their way out. This holds the answer.
Couples who find themselves in these patterns do not have a communication problem. They say plenty to each other when it comes to how the other person is to blame and what they're not getting.
When couples fight, it's rarely about the topic. And it's rarely a mere exchange of words. We get activated by fear, our nervous system snaps into fight/flight mode, and we resort to our best-practiced and relational coping mechanism — the teenager response.
Emily Schromm of the Meathead Hippy Podcast interviews Irene Fehr on intimacy, sex and the importance of pleasure. Plus tidbits on shame, polyamory, love.
If you as a woman do not experience spontaneous sexual desire, it does not mean there is something wrong with you. Learn about three things that keep women's libido low in a long-term relationship.
As a coach who works with women and couples to create satisfying and nourishing sex lives, I can zero in on three top mistakes that couples make when it comes to sex — mistakes that lead to little or none of it.
Marta Plaza of Desire. Games interviews Irene Fehr on the differences in desire within the relationship, staying present during sex and about connecting with your partner.
Irene Fehr talks with Dr Lisa PT of Owning HER Health Podcast on women's pleasure and sexual wellness.
Irene Fehr and Rachel Gelman, DPT, pelvic physical therapist, teamed up to talk about why painful sex should never be the norm for women and offer ways to work through the pain to create more pleasure for women.
I talk a lot about asking for what you want in sex. But you know what? What I'm really talking about here is love. Because in asking for what you want, you honor your desires—and when you honor your desires, you nurture and feed your soul with love so that you can overflow with love for others. And that's what we all want.
You may not be able to reduce external stress, but you can change how you deal with stress on the inside. You can build your resilience to stress, converting your response to one that nourishes and heals you, rather than piles on more. Here are five essential daily self-care practices that will help you reduce stress and develop more resilience in life.
I don’t have the secrets to your fantastic sex life, because only you hold the keys to your castle. What I have found is the process to reconnect to yourself so you can feel free in your body, enlivened, excited and turned on by your own self-confidence. As an intimacy and sexuality coach, I’m here to share the process with you and inspire you to believe that you can have this experience for yourself too.
One of the top questions I get from women is: how do I stay present during sex? I’ve been there before too. While he is lavishing me with touch and affection, my mind is somewhere else: the laundry list, that mistake I made at work, wondering why I haven’t waxed for weeks …
As a Women’s Sex and Sexuality Coach, I get asked this question all the time: what tips and tricks do you have for amazing sex? So, I will go straight to the point and share with you five of my secrets ...
You were born a wild one ... wildly creative, passionate and intense. You had ideas, dreams - to lead, to create change in the world, to love big and strong. You were one fiery spirit, seeking others to fan your flames. You connected deeply to others. You felt your sex, your power as a woman. Then one day, You decided that the wild one was too much. Her fire was too hot to handle.
Have you ever wondered what it'd be like if we talked more about our sexual bodies? You know the area "down there"—our vulva, clitoris, vagina? As a sex coach I get to do this all the time and here's the thing: something magical happens when women open up our energy to talk about sex, sexuality and our bodies. The lights go on. It feels like a moment of liberation, a coming out of a darkness. And it's a rare occurrence—still!—in our day in age.
I've created this mini masterclass training to help you access your desires more easily and become more fluent in knowing what you want - so that you feel more empowered to have more of what you want in your life.
Do you want to add more richness and fire to your sex life? Here is the thing. It’s not about toys or positions. And it’s not about getting to know each other better. Quite the opposite. It’s about getting curious about yourself and your partner as if you’ve never met ...
Inside every woman is a turned-on woman. Because being turned on is your natural state of being. Because it's a birthright. She’s been there all along … before the first offense* when someone close to her told her that being sexually turned on is inappropriate … before she were told that she’s too much ...
Ever hear the saying "you can't pour from an empty cup"? What makes sex often feel hard for women is that we, modern women, are starting off with an empty cup. We focus on output and forgo the input ...
What keeps me going - and more importantly, what keeps me in flow and loving it - is feminine self-care. But not the kind you’re thinking of. I used to think that feminine self-care was dark chocolate, a mani & pedi, or a night out with the girls. Self-pleasure too, of course. And all of these are awesome! I am talking about radical self-care. The kind that’s rarely talked about ...
Sexless Marriage: Stay or Leave? A Sex Coach Explains via @TheWoolfer
The Experts Answer Your Biggest Relationship Questions via @EliteSingles
Does Having An Emotional Connection Make Sex Better? via @ Bustle
When Sex Hurts — and What to Do about It @ HuffPost
What I Learned from My Sexless Marriage @ ScaryMommy