Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Couples
Committing yourself fully to a loving romantic partnership can be one of life’s most beautiful and fulfilling experiences. When you cross the threshold into a committed relationship, you carry with you dreams – of love and connection, passion and excitement, sex and intimacy that expand with you as your relationship grows.
Society wants us to believe that it should be natural. If you love each other … then sex should simply happen. We’re told that it should work out naturally, and sadly, it often doesn't.
No matter how much love you share or how attracted you are to each other, your sex life will change over time. When things don’t go as easily or as planned, when childbirth, aging or illness upset the dynamic, when differences in libido surface, you might find yourselves lost and confused. If you are unprepared, you might end up avoiding sex or each other — and your relationship is likely to become unsatisfying and even fail.
Discover why sex dies in a long-term relationship —
and how to create ever-growing passion and sex
in your relationship.
The reality is that our culture has not set us up to create a great sex life over the course of a long-term relationship. And it sees sexual “problems” — such as a sexless marriage, mismatched libidos, or loss of libido or pain during intercourse for women — as personal failures.
After helping hundreds of couples around the world, and struggling with my own sexual desire in my marriage, I came to view these as fertilizers for creating “amazing sex” — rather than impediments to such. And I have seen these couples create successful sex lives that grow better, hotter and more passionate with time when they learn to do the same.
When you understand that sex and sexual passion will naturally wax and wane over the span of your relationship and your body naturally changes over time, you can ride the waves of the storms — without taking things personally. You then get to create a foundation that will serve you for decades to come and create a powerful sexual connection that will last the span of your relationship.
Connection Sex is the only sustainable path to long-term sexual passion and intimacy.
Are you ready to create Connection Sex in your life?
Apply for a free 30-minute phone consultation to share what’s going on for you and get recommendations on the best next step to create the sex life you desire.
About Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Couples
Sex coaching combines the power of coaching and transformational change with the deep understanding of human sexuality dynamics and relationship dynamics.
My goal is to help clients build a great marriage; not make your marriage a little bit less bad. Which is why I take my clients through a sexual growth program that involves becoming their best selves in relationship with another person. It is a process of expanding the ability to keep your heart and your sex open in connection with your partner in a way that brings more pleasure, eroticism and closeness — over the length of your relationship and lives.
My work is heavily influenced by the evidence-based "attachment" approaches and tools by John & Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, based on 30 years of couples research at the Love Lab at the University of Washington, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) techniques pioneered by Sue Johnson.
I also bring a wealth of experience to help rewire the body to deeper pleasure using Somatic Experiencing® techniques for nervous system relaxation and regulation.
Every coaching journey — whether with a couple or an individual client — is custom-tailored for your specific situation and is highly experiential and transformative. It includes these areas of focus:
BUILD INTIMACY & CONNECTION
Create emotional connection, let your guard down with your partner, and open yourself to receiving.
CULTIVATE DESIRE & PASSION
Sexual desire is a potent force for connection and intimacy. Cultivate sexual desire and learn to express it in a way that has your partner want to give it to you.
EXPAND YOUR PLEASURE
Explore what turns you on and deepen how much pleasure you experience.
EMBODY PASSION & INTIMACY
Experience sex, touch and arousal with more pleasure, presence and connection.
Benefits of Sex Coaching for Couples
Discover each other with connection-deepening conversations and powerful physical/touch practices
Work through conflict around sex in a way that brings out the best in both of you and draws you closer
Learn about slow sex, sexual presence, sexual polarities and other energetic concepts to enhance your sexual experience
Share your desires and experience in a way that turns you on and brings you closer
Deepen intimacy in conflict and come towards each other when it feels like you want to pull apart
Attune to each other’s energy and create turn-on and passion from ordinary situations
Turn communication gridlocks into vulnerable, intimacy-creating moments
Create physical and energetic connection to create "all-day foreplay" (and more intimacy)
Transform "performance" and "pleasing" modes to experience true intimacy and connection
Communicate deep desires in a way that brings out the best in your partner
Feel pleasure in your body and bring energy to your sex and relationship
Relax into your feminine presence and let yourself enjoy the experience fully
Communicate your deep feelings and emotions in a way that creates trust, connection and turn-on between the two of you
Use your deep masculine energy to create trust and safety in the relationship for both of you to open up and create deep sexual fulfillment for both of you
Play her body like a music instrument with your body, energy and touch
Powerfully lead in your relationship from a place of deep integrity with your desire (which turns women on)
Understand what’s really keeping your woman from opening to you and how you can change that
Ready for your breakthrough?
Apply for a free 30-minute consultation and let’s explore coaching together.
We learned how to do long-term relationship with Irene …
We've both grown sooo much individually and as a couple … both much happier in our marriage. We were in a rough spot when we started ... tons of bickering … always feeling on edge like a fight was just around the corner, feeling drained by one another/our relationship and not on the same page as a couple. After coaching with Irene, we feel like a squeaky clean new couple. We're much more filled up individually, so we are filled up by our relationship, have sex much more frequently and more fulfilling sex, we have tools on how to do relationship so we rarely fight now. We ... both feel so much more freedom and joy from our relationship. We're also showing our son, and future children, what a healthy marriage looks and feels like. Irene ... lovingly guided us through some very tender times and got us to drop our swords and taught us to open our hearts to one another again. Her coaching is the perfect blend of tangible skills/communication, energy, holding a strong space and having fun. Do it — it takes work, courage, tears, healing and it is 1000% worth it because the love, freedom and joy on the other side is better than you can imagine.
Irene's exercises and one-on-one coaching has helped us take steps towards where we want to be, rather than trying to fix everything all at once.
The most important things we've learned have been different approaches to understanding intimacy, from love languages to masculine/feminine dynamics. We've learned how to better communicate and acknowledge feelings instead of talking past each other. Irene has also helped remove the negativity from our thinking about intimacy issues, and gotten us to a place where we think of this as a normal growing pain in a longstanding relationship."
Krystal and Ira, 34 & 38, Married, Int'l Aid Worker & Engineer