About Irene Fehr, Sex & Intimacy Coach


Certified Coach. Writer. Speaker.


I am a sex & intimacy coach who's helped hundreds of women and couples reclaim their libido and passion for sex in long-term relationships.

Join my growing private coaching practice in outside of Denver, Colorado or work with me from any corner of the world via Zoom or Skype.

Read my many articles on sex in long-term relationships, female libido and sexual pleasure in the Huffington Post, ScaryMommy, Thrive Global, Thought Catalog, Refinery29, and Medium as well as in the Elite Daily and Bustle where I am regularly featured as a guest sex expert. You can also hear my story and approach on the many podcasts including The Generous Marriage Podcast, Legendary Marriage Podcast, SheVentures Podcast, EverythingEHR - Mental Health RadioLive in Your Truth RadioHonor the Feminine, and was one of the speakers at 2016 Ignite Howard County


Why I do this work?

I’ve lived through a fair share of challenging relationships and intimacy experiences — from my experience of losing my libido and ending up in a sexless marriage — that have led me to create tools to make sex in long-term relationships not only successful and sustainable but also inevitable for all couples.

I know that when couples feel empowered to create a fulfilling sex life with their love partner, they empower the next many generations to do that same — and that spills over into a more open, fulfilled and nourished world.

As a sex and intimacy coach, I am committed to walking alongside you on your own personal journey and helping you access more of your rightful pleasure, joy and love in your sex life.

How Do I View Sex in a Long-term Relationship?

Watch this video to understand why sex dies in a long-term relationship, when it is a good thing, and how to create sustainable passion and excitement over time.

Training & Background

I am a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from the prestigious Coaches Training Institute in San Rafael, CA. 

To effectively help my clients remove blocks, rewire their system to feeling sexual desire and create new intimacy patterns that form the foundation to a thriving sex life, I blend together a variety of coaching modalities and extensive study of sexuality, sexual practices such as Orgasmic Meditation, mindfulness, positive psychology, neuroscience, shadow work, body awareness, movement therapy, guided visualizations, and intuitive work. Learn more about sex coaching and how it differs from sex therapy.

My couples work is deeply rooted in the evidence-based Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach as well as Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help clients break patterns of disconnection to deepen intimacy.

Focusing on a body-oriented healing of relational trauma and loss of libido, I incorporate the Somatic Experiencing® method to sexuality and relational coaching. See my practitioner profile here.

In addition to my coaching practice, I am Contributing Faculty at the newly-founded DiaNova Institute for Intimacy Studies.

Before becoming a sex and intimacy coach, I was a corporate marketing maven, with experience in some of the world's largest companies in Silicon Valley and on Wall Street. As a graduate of Barnard College, Columbia University and Stanford University with a BA and MA in Philosophy, I can proudly say that I've been a life-long student of what it means to lead a good life. 

Recent Trainings

  • Completed Beginning and Intermediate years of a 3-year Somatic Experiencing® Training, 2018 & 2019.

  • Level 1 Clinical Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy with Drs John and Julie Gottman, July 2017

  • Introduction to Crucible® Neurobiological Therapy with Dr. David Schnarch, July 2017

How to Work with Me



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