Signals That Your Relationship Is Ready to Grow Stronger

You’re in the beautiful phase of creating “us” — in love, committed, and planning a future together. You’ve found someone you want to invest in, to grow with, and play with.

It’s normal and natural for all couples to experiencing moments when what used to feel effortless now feels harder or more complicated:

• Desire doesn’t look the same anymore. One of you feels ready; the other feels pressured. Initiation becomes fraught, and resentment builds. You wonder: Are we really compatible and do we have to settle for this for the rest of our lives?

• Arguments pop up around small things, and sometimes they escalate, looping endlessly until one of you withdraws or both go to bed disconnected. You wonder: Can we handle conflict without hurting each other?

• Unmet needs start to turn into silent resentments that pop up through little annoyances and sharp remarks. Instead of feeling closer, you sometimes feel stuck, scared, or disconnected and sometimes devolve into one of the 10 painfully distancing patterns.

None of this means that you, your love or your relationship are failing. It does mean that your relationship has outgrown your existing tools and is asking for attention, growth, and new tools for creating a stronger, more sustainable “us”.

Grow Your Relationship for a Stronger, Lasting ‘Us’

Imagine being empowered to deal with conflict or intimacy challenges with ease:

• Disagreements become invitations to deepen — not distance. You trust conflict to bring you closer rather than drive you apart because you know how to communicate in a way that your partner hears you.

• Desire isn't dictated by schedule or mood — but organically grows out of everyday connection, curiosity, and play.

• You feel heard, seen and understood by each other, even amidst differences in personality or desires.

With relationship coaching for new couples focused on sex and intimacy, you will learn to transform conflict into intimacy to create sustainable passion for decades to come.

Signature “Creating Us” Foundations

Relationship coaching for new couples is about equipping you with powerful tools for creating sustainable passion in your relationship and marriage for decades to come.

• Discovery Conversations — Rich, curiosity-filled talks (outside of sex) about what makes each of you feel safe, desired, seen, and alive.

• Gridlock Breakthrough Tools — Practical strategies to interrupt looping arguments, unearth the deeper needs and longing beneath, and deepen trust.

• Sexy Playtime — Scheduled moments of joy and connection where sex isn’t the goal — play is. It builds intimacy and desire without the pressure.

How We’ll Work Together to Create a Stronger Relationship

The journey to extraordinary demands commitment—and the results are worth it.

Customized Sex & Intimacy Coaching

This is both a guided journey to discover you and also a free-form one that gives us space to encounter and address whatever shows up in your path. Each session is tailored to what is most pressing in the moment as well as with the eye of your ultimate goal and is a mix of talking and experientially changing things around. Expect to learn more about yourselves, break out old patterns, and gain deep confidence to show up authentically in sex, your relationship and beyond.

Personal Attention and Support Between Sessions

Growth is not only what happens in the sessions. It happens between sessions — when you try things out, succeed and also fail, and learn from it.

Which is why access to me and my support between sessions is critical. You get access to me between sessions via Whatsapp/text and through bonus laser sessions, so that you can troubleshoot in real-time when you get stuck and need a helping hand to get back to safety.

This high-touch approach ensures that you get personalized support when you need it the most.

Time Commitment for Transformation

My goal is to help you create sustainable change that sticks in real-life situations, not just what happens in a session — and that takes time.

We commit to working together for at least 12 months to start; many couples continue beyond that as they navigate starting a family, career shifts, or other changes in the relationship with my help. We meet weekly via virtual sessions, with optional intensive days or week-long retreats to dig deeper.

Financial Investment

Coaching packages are deeply customized and start from US$18,500 for the core package. Flexible payment plans are available and to be discussed during your free strategy call.

Emotional and Energetic Investment

This isn’t passive listening. You’ll engage in daily connection assignments, fostering new habits of intimacy. Expect to work up to spending several hours a week deeply connecting, touching, and/or playing with each other (which is your hopefully your goal to begin with!).

VIRTUAL COACHING: I am an American currently based in Europe and work virtually via the online conferencing platform Zoom with English-speaking clients all over the world, including the US, Canada, Europe, UK, Israel, the Middle East and Australia. 

There is no sexual contact involved under any circumstances.

Hi, I Am Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, SEP

WOMAN, LOVER, INTIMACY WARRIOR, NATURE LOVER, FRANCOPHILE and SEX & INTIMACY COACH SINCE 2012

I am not here to tell you how to do things in sex to make it passionate. The last thing you need is something telling you what to do.

I am here to listen to your dreams and needs and then expertly guide you to realize them. It’s that simple.

In addition to helping hundreds of couples to create, rebuild, rekindle their relationship, my work and views on what makes love and sex work in long-term relationships have been featured in more than 40 podcasts and in major media outlets around the world.

What is Sex and Intimacy Coaching for Couples?

• It’s holistic — addressing physical, emotional, and sexual aspects in a cohesive, attuned way

• It’s tailored to who you are, how you live, your practical priorities, and what nourishes you both

• It cultivates Connection Sex™, profoundly slowing down intimacy so you savor every sensation, emotional beat, and moment of presence—without pressure or performance anxiety

A solid approach to fixing a persistent sex problem doesn’t start with theory. It starts with a deep look at your couple dynamics today and where you want to go. We base our action steps on the specific needs of your relationship and each member to restore safety, vulnerability and connection that breeds intimacy and sexual openness.

Inviting Your Partner on Board to Get Relationship Support

Need help talking to your partner about getting support for your relationship with a sex & intimacy coach?

Maybe you’re already on the same page in rekindling sex and intimacy in your relationship, and this conversation will be a piece of cake.

For most couples, however, approaching a partner about working on the relationship can feel intimidating or scary. Don’t despair!

I’ve created a special guide on how to approach talking to your partner about hiring a sex coach. It includes a special process and a downloadable PDF worksheet for you to fill out to make the conversation a lot easier and more successful.

Download free guide: how to talk to partner about a sex coach

And if your partner seems resistant to the idea of getting relationship support, check out my blog post that will help you understand what might be going on for them.