ATTRACTING US for Single Women:
Find a Partner Who Meets You in Love & Intimacy by Being Authentically You
What’s your dream vision for what you desire most in your romantic life?
Meeting a caring and respectful partner who will want to explore, experience and share in the excitement of your sexual pleasure with you?
Feeling free and uninhibited to experience sex in a way that works for you?
Experiencing deep safety and surrender in the arms of a man with deep presence?
Feeling confident to ask for what you really want — and in a way that your partner wants to give it to you?
Sharing your feelings, needs, desires, and truth freely and never feeling like you’re too much in a relationship?
Freely playing, connecting and acting without guilt, doubt, tension, and anxiety?
Enjoying every moment of your life?
This is the life I want for you. This is the life that you deserve.
This is the life that is waiting for you …
Why authenticity is the key to attracting the right partner
I can also guess that you’re probably reading this because sex in a relationship has not been so easy for you.
Maybe you’ve dreamt of sex as a beautiful, pleasurable experience and it was nothing but.
Maybe you had to succumb to obligatory sex in a past relationship or have been gridlocked over sexual desire with a past partner.
Maybe trauma has robbed you of the ability to be present in your sexual experiences or to feel safe to open sexually.
Or maybe you have never been with a partner with whom you felt safe-enough to open and surrender in sex at all.
I am so sorry that it had to be this way.
I am so sorry that sex has been an area of frustration and pain in your life — and even trauma.
I am so sorry that this frustration and pain had you conclude that ease, aliveness and pleasure were not meant for you.
The good news is that this is not the end.
It’s the beginning, a call to action to stay in your truth and find your way to fulfilling your soul’s desires when it comes to feeling safe, held, met, cared for and pleasured.
It is a call to action to let your authentic you shine and attract the right partner!
You deserve to be free, feel good and to be loved passionately — for the authentic you.
Participate in the pleasure and aliveness of sex
Enjoy that sexy feeling in your body when excited for love-making
Feel close and excited to be intimate with a partner
Let’s go on this journey together.
Who This Is For
Women ready to create a fulfilling partnership
Divorced or separated women seeking new love
Single women in midlife rediscovering passion and desire
I believe sexual challenges such as painful sex, lack of sexual desire, or unease about sex are about health and growth rather than pathology. They’re an opportunity to step into the next stage of connection with ourselves and our partners, current or future, by getting the education you need — education about your body and what works for you.
Which is why I will take you a “sexual growth journey” to help you feel more at ease about sex and pleasure than you’ve ever thought possible in the way that works for you — and dare to have powerful conversations with potential partners to align on the same.
How We’ll Work Together
Tools and practices to discover you
This is both a guided journey to discover you and also a free-form one that gives us space to encounter and address whatever shows up in your path. Expect to learn more about yourself, break out old patterns, and gain deep confidence to show up authentically in sex, relationships and beyond.
Personal attention and support through sex & intimacy coaching
Growth is not only what happens in the sessions. It happens between sessions — especially when you get stuck and need a helping hand to get out. You get access to me between sessions via Whatsapp/text and through laser sessions, so that you can troubleshoot whatever you encounter in realtime.
This journey is one of exploration and also creating sustainable change that sticks in real-life situations. It takes time. We commit to working together for at least one year. My customized coaching packages require a year-long commitment and start at US$16,000; specifics of the mounts and payment plans will be discussed during the free consultation call.
1:1 coaching tailored to your needs
Every coaching journey is tailored to your needs and desires, and it generally covers these areas, explored at the pace that is right for you.
access your desire
Build confidence to ask for what you really want
Uncover what you deeply want for yourself: the touch, affection, and communication that turn you on
Remove roadblocks of guilt, shame or self-doubt that stand in the way of you having what you want
Connect to your body’s wisdom and sexual energy to know what you really want and need
cultivate pleasure
Heal past patterns that block love and intimacy
Learn what feels good to you and how to receive pleasure (and get out of your head)
Work through fears, guilt and shame that hold you back from surrendering deeply into your pleasure
Relax into your body and your sensuality
Nourish your body & soul to bring out your natural radiance and shine
use your voice
Learn to trust yourself — and others — in relationships
Express your truth authentically and n a way that your partner will listen
Release resentments and hurts from the past to create a clean start to magnetize a partner that you deeply desire
Surrender deeply into relationship without losing yourself and compromising your integrity
Empowered Dating
Bring all of these learnings and clarity together into an intentional dating process that is about honoring yourself while attracting a partner who will honor who you are and meet you in the kind of intimacy and love that you desire.
date with intention
Ask powerful questions that provide a meaningful window into the integrity and character of potential partners
Work up the courage to let go of potential dates that do not suit you
Whether you need encouragement or a space to cry it out, rely on unwavering support available during the process.
Real journeys of transformation and partnership
Client success stories of women in their 30s to their 50s connecting to their authentic truth and finding fulfilling partnerships in love
I thought that sexuality goes downhill after menopause. And it's been the opposite for me in my experience. That was a wonderful, fun surprise!
I had been divorced for about five years … I hadn't felt sexual in years and years. I wanted my sexuality back. I wanted to be in a relationship. I wanted love and intimacy with a partner. That was the longing.
My friends were all bugging me to get on dating sites to jump start the process. I tried and it was not a good experience.
[Fast forward to today] … I am finding myself as a deeply centered, powerful sexual being who is unapologetic and unafraid of her sexuality, and who is adored for that.
I'm in a relationship with a man as opposed to a boy, for sure, and that’s something that's different. I feel like he's needing me to be in my power, as he's super masculine.
Update 2025: Hannah got married this year to a wonderful man, who loves and adores her.
Hannah • Professional divorced woman in her mid 50s with a teen daughter • US
I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out!
I reached out to Irene after struggling on my own for years, but wanting to make a change before my wedding. My fiancé and I went through some challenging times, and I was feeling stuck and unable to move past old hurts. For years I had been slowly building up walls, and separating myself both emotionally and physically, even though I wanted nothing but closeness and intimacy deep down. Irene made me feel at ease right away: she has a way of guiding you to answers you didn't know you had inside you.
After only a couple of months of working together, I am now able to reach for my partner when I need him. I have shed the fear of not being good enough for my partner. I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out!
I have transformed from rigid to soft, from closed off to open, and from insecure in my relationship to more confident and connected than ever. Irene has provided the safe space I needed to process, and move forward. I can't wait to see what the coming months hold for our work together!
Sarah, 33 • Engaged • Marketing Director • Denver, CO
I’m energised because my energy is feminine & abundant. I’ve become one of the highest performing sales women in my job and am often told I’m magnetic.
I still remember the sad night I had enough of my sexual frustration. I was ashamed of myself, my body and of my desires. I pushed pleasure all the way to the tiny hours of the night while I spent all my waking hours as a successful career-driven woman. I love my career, but it was self destructive and I sacrificed pleasure, desire, play and curiosity. I sat in bed realising that if I continued this life, I KNEW I’d wake up as a 35 year old woman hating her life, body and in an un-loving relationship. In a deep panic I reached out to Irene — she was the first and only person I sought help for sexual education, awareness and help.
I have worked with Irene for six months and I have seen DRAMATIC results in my life. The first being, to communicate my desires. I started out as a shy, ashamed and angry girl. I had been taught to push all passion, desire and sexuality aside in pursuit of career success as an Accountant. After working with Irene, not only do I voice my desires, I ACT on them. I have become a talented dancer and successful sales woman in a job I love.
The second dramatic result was to awaken my sexual self. Before, I perceived my sexuality and femininity as a liability in my career and in my identity. I thought I’d be a push-over or I’m displeasing God. With Irene’s help she has given me confidence to exude femininity and use sexual energy in all aspects of my life. Even in my sales job! Consequently, I am always energised because my energy is feminine and abundant. I’ve become one of the highest performing sales women in my job and am often told I am magnetic.
The third dramatic result was my self love and self acceptance. Before, I was very ashamed of my shortcomings, inexperience and appearance. Irene taught me skills to help me love all of me, with compassion and understanding. In turn, I love myself and I desire to see myself as beautiful, joyful and happy. This reflection has caused me to become attractive to other people too! Wow! I am approached by both men and women as someone they would love to be friends with!! Now, I am confident dating men again.
Update from 2023: “You helped me SO MUCH. I just wanted to say that the guy I met during the course of meeting you is now my husband! We have great intimacy and love. Sex life is fantastic too! We’ve even started exploring more adventures. What I wanted to let you know was that your coaching HAS NEVER BEEN MORE USEFUL in this new adventures of ours. It’s difficult to maintain the practice of being in the body lo the time (due to work etc). But in the matters of the body and owning your pleasure - the practices you have instilled in me help a great deal. You have definitely been a wonderful influence on my intimate life and I thank you!”
Pia • Woman in her 30s, now married • Australia
Sexual work is deep and intense, yet it is also light and playful and fun. What I have learned: that I am free to express and embody all the shades of my femininity and sexuality.
Irene’s coaching is alluring, beautiful, and POWERFUL. She has pushed me beyond my comfort zone and even when I wanted to stay small, she has gently and lovingly and yet firmly pushed me to play bigger. I am so feminine and flowy that I can be deep in my sea of emotions and feminine energy, and I needed a powerful coach who is the perfect balance of feminine and masculine energy to support me on my sexual awakening and transformation journey.
With her support, I am becoming my truth and embodying the divine feminine so I can finally feel free in my divine sensual experiences. There always been fire inside me … by working through my fog of fears and limiting beliefs and integrating this mindset work with body work and feeling the sensations in my body, the gates of my heart and body have opened.
In this journey, I have spent the time honoring the darkness of my past and processing my shame around my sexuality and learned the intricacies of seduction and my sexuality. I am now ready to express my sexuality. Express my wild woman. I want to express who I am deep inside that I’ve kept hidden since childhood. I know I am a Sex and Sensual Goddess since childhood because this is my portal to connect to the Universe and the Divine. I’ve faced my wounds and shadows.
Besides connecting to my sexuality, my sexual energy has fed my creative projects and I’ve re-discovered my creativity and understand that my true calling in my life is to be a creative artist and healer.
Sexual work is deep and intense, yet it is also light and playful and fun. What I have learned: that I am free to express and embody all the shades of my femininity and sexuality. I have gained my womanhood and my gift of my sexuality. Thank you, thank you, and thank you with all my heart, Irene!
Priyanka Yadvendu • Creative Artist • www.wildlyintimate.com • California, USA
I feel fully alive, vital and sexy. My relationship with my husband is hotter … sexier … exciting.
I see myself completely differently. My love for myself (and realization that I matter) has grown tremendously. I don’t feel numb anymore. I don’t hold back as much. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I feel powerful and magnetic. What I am most proud of is my openness to talk with my husband about things I was afraid to ask for before. My relationship is hotter, more fun, sexier, exciting. Coaching with Irene has been fun, and the most valuable coaching I’ve ever gotten.
Suzan Acker, 44 • Relationship Coach • Ottawa, Canada
Irene helped me find and connect, mind and body, to the woman I knew was inside.
I had spent years in my head and totally disconnected from my body. I felt flat. I knew I wanted to feel differently but I wasn't sure what to do about it. Irene helped me to zero in on how I wanted to feel within my body, then name and claim those desires. I laughed, cried, cussed, and got turned on! Working with Irene was nothing short of transformational. Don't let her sweet voice fool you though, she's tough ... and you'll love her for it!
Stephanie, 40 • Artist & Mother of 2 • Nebraska
My own journey from disconnect to deep intimacy
Hi, I am Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, SEP, and sex & intimacy coach who is committed to helping people find deep fulfilling love that honors their hearts and souls.
I get the struggle of so deeply wanting an intimate relationship and being so stuck sexually, because I have been there too.
Just before I became a sex coach, I was in my 30s, utterly devastated and ashamed of having had a sexless marriage because I lost all interest in sex. To add to that, I had extreme pain during sex and had never orgasmed.
To be honest, I blamed myself for not being feminine enough. I felt broken for not being orgasmic. And I felt numb — to sex but also to passion for my own life because I had to put so many parts of me in the name of “keeping the love.”
At 30 years of age, I wondered...
Is that it for me in terms of sex?
Why don't I want sex like other women?
Am I not meant to enjoy sex?
Not long after having what Brene Brown, academic and researcher on shame, vulnerability, and leadership, calls a “nervous breakdown slash spiritual awakening,” I finally heard the wake up call. My loss of libido and sexual struggles set me on a path to discover what intimacy and sexuality really meant for me — and experience the kind of deep safety, pleasure and surrender I craved.
Knowing deep down that there has to be more than the anxiety, shutdown and tears I experienced around sex, I walked into a sex coach's office to tell her that I wanted more and I needed help finding it.
Working with a sex coach was life-changing!
I saw my body shift and come alive when I was given permission to honor my body.
Desire flowed — without the guilt or shame.
My body relaxed and got turned on — like a flower bud slowly opening up. I started to radiate sexual energy — and I learned how to ask for what I wanted and what I didn’t, making my sexual experiences pleasurable and free of shame.
And I became the intimacy warrior I am today — and a vocal advocate of women’s pleasure on podcasts and media platforms around the world. My early sexual experiences had me doubt if I like sex (or if women at all like sex) but I realized that you have to have sex worth wanting to like it.
Are You a Woman in Relationship?
For women already in relationship, my couples work includes working on deepening connection and intimacy, so that you and your partner can feel closer to each other and explore sexual pleasure together. Whether you’re starting out as a new couple, want to rebuild your relationship, or rekindle sexual connection, I offer a combination approach of individual work that goes hand in hand with couples sessions.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q1: What is intimacy coaching for single women?
A: Intimacy coaching helps single, divorced or separated women identify and release blocks to love, build confidence in expressing desires, and attract partners who can meet them in authentic connection and intimacy.
Q2: How is intimacy coaching different from therapy?
A: Both therapy and coaching are about understanding yourself and removing blocks to what is in the way of creating an authentic and fulfilling life. Therapy goes beyond that by also treating psychological disorders mentioned in the DSM manual. Coaching focuses more empowering you to break through patterns in the present and future, leaving you with tools that you can use without my help. Intimacy coaching in particular integrates emotional healing, embodiment, and relational skills so you can feel safe, confident, and fully yourself in love and sex.
Q3: Who is intimacy coaching right for?
A: This is for women ready to create a deeply fulfilling partnership—whether you’ve never married, are divorced, or are in midlife rediscovering your sexuality and desire.
Q4: What results can I expect from working with you?
A: Many women experience greater self-confidence, emotional clarity, freedom to ask for what they want, and the ability to attract and sustain authentic, intimate relationships. My customer success stories speak for themselves.
Q5: Do I need to be dating now to benefit from intimacy coaching?
A: No. All women that I have worked with began coaching before dating. This way, you can build the confidence, clarity, and self-trust needed to attract a partner who meets you fully from the get-go.
Q6: How do I get started?
A: You can begin with a free 1-hour “Attracting Us” strategy session to explore your goals, uncover what’s been holding you back, and take the first step toward love and intimacy.