Painful Sex, Dyspareunia and Pelvic Pain


Does penetration sex feel painful?

Do you struggle enjoying sex because it hurts?

Have you heard from your doctor that everything is ok with your body, but sex still hurts?

Your being here tells me that you are ready to address this important issue in your sexual and overall health and wellness.

If intercourse sex feels painful, you're not alone. As many as 30% of women report pain during vaginal intercourse, according to a 2012 National Survey of Sexual Health Behavior.

Many women put up with pain — but just because it's common doesn't mean it's okay.

Pain during sex not only ruins the moment, it can have much greater consequences: fear of sex, lowered sex drive, and overall loss of intimacy.

Pain is your body's way of signaling that something is wrong. It's a cue to take a step back and figure out what's happening.

These two videos below are a powerful first step to understanding what is going on with your body. In the videos, I explain the psycho-somatic aspects that contribute to painful intercourse and dyspareunia – aspects that many women have either been misinformed about or have neglected in an effort to please their partners.


VIDEO 1: Why do I have pain during penetration? (6:48 min)

VIDEO 2: Why can penetration sex feel painful? (8 min)

VIDEO 3: From Pain to Pleasure: Causes & Treatment of Painful Sex with Irene Fehr and Rachel Gelman (90 min webinar)


I too struggled with painful sex for a long time in my marriage. I avoided touch that I craved (long after my marriage ended), in fear that it would lead to “more” — and more I could not do. Feeling alone and ashamed, I pulled back — first from my husband, then from any potential sexual partners. I stuffed my emotions, disappointment and anger, instead channeling my energy to shopping, cooking and baking (and the eating that followed). Read my story featured in the Huffington Post here.


When we work together, you will:

Understand the psychosomatic aspects to painful sex and release unhelpful limiting beliefs about your body and your deservingness of pleasure

Rewire your body to receive more pleasure by creating rituals of pleasurable sexual experiences with your partner

Learn to communicate your needs to your partner to meet the needs of your body and create deeper intimacy.

Life is too short to waste this precious time suffering unnecessarily.

Learn more about sex coaching.

Are you ready to chat and see if this approach is right for you? Apply for a complimentary 30-minute phone consultation, where you can share what’s going on for you and I can make recommendations on the best next step.

Need help talking to your partner about sex coaching? Read these tips and download a worksheet to help you navigate this intimate conversation.

Everything you share with me, in this form and otherwise, is strictly confidential, regardless whether you work with me or not.

Legal Disclaimer:

I am not a doctor, claim to be one or have any formal medical background. I do not claim to cure any cause, condition or disease. This guide and the website are the opinion of myself, a certified coach. 

All information here is generalized, presented for informational purposes only, not medical advice, and presented “as is” without warranty or guarantee of any kind. Readers are cautioned not to rely on this information as medical advice.

As with any other kind of pain, check with your OB/GYN or family doctor to rule out other issues such as infections.

If you might think that endometriosis is the cause of painful sex, check out Bad Periods, a website dedicated to information on treatment options.

To understand how sex coaching works, check out this FAQ.