Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Couples


 

Connection Sex is the only sustainable path to long-term sexual passion and intimacy.

I believe that our desire to work on our sexuality and sexual relationships is more than just a call to fix something that’s not working. It’s a call to actualize our deepest desires around human connection.

I believe that sexuality work is transformative. It is life-changing. It is a sexual crucible that calls us to grow.

In fact, I believe challenges around sexual desire are about health and growth rather than pathology, an opportunity and a calling to step into the next level of self-realization and connection.

And I believe that Connection Sex is the only sustainable path to long-term sexual passion and intimacy.

Which is why I take my clients through a sexual growth program that involves becoming our best selves in relationship with another person. It is a process of expanding our ability to keep our hearts and our sex open in connection with our partners in a way that brings more pleasure, more joy and more closeness.


Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Couples

Sex coaching combines the power of coaching and transformational change with the deep understanding of human sexuality dynamics and relationship dynamics.

My work is heavily influenced by the evidence-based "attachment" approaches and tools by John & Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, based on 30 years of couples research at the Love Lab at the University of Washington, as well as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) techniques pioneered by Sue Johnson.

It is a combination of learning about your sexual self, how to stand in your own truth, and how to meet another human being through sexual and emotional intimacy. It’s a process that involves all of you: your attitudes, thoughts, feelings and your body.

I also bring a wealth of experience to help rewire the body to deeper pleasure using Somatic Experiencing® techniques for nervous system relaxation and regulation.

Every coaching journey — whether with a couple or an individual client — is custom-tailored for your specific situation and is highly experiential and transformative. It includes these areas of focus:

FOCUS AREA 1: BUILDING INTIMACY & CONNECTION

When we feel safe with our partners — when are able to open up about our needs and desires and trust that we will be heard — magic happens. When partners are emotionally connected, accessible, responsive and engaged, we let our guard down and allow ourselves to be open and vulnerable by sharing our deepest desires and our hearts and opening up to receiving. Sex becomes erotic play.

Satisfying sex and connection go hang in hand. By creating an environment where it’s “safe to be risky,” our libido heightens and partners move from physical satisfaction to deeper intimate bliss.  

Work in this area includes breaking through barriers to connection, learning to speak vulnerably and ask for what you want powerfully, and addressing conflict in a way that helps deepen intimacy.

FOCUS AREA 2: CULTIVATING & FREEING SEXUAL DESIRE

Sexual desire is a potent force for connection and intimacy. It is a raw expression of our humanness and our eroticism. Yet most couples rarely allow themselves full permission to express directly what they want and need, building barriers to protect themselves from rejection and disappointment, and resorting to complaining or withdrawing altogether.

In this area, we focus on cultivating desire, expressing it cleanly and asking for what you want in a way that deepens erotic connection, builds pleasure and stokes our own turn-on.

FOCUS AREA 3: EXPANDING EROTICAL & PLEASURE POTENTIAL

Understanding sex and sexuality is more than knowing the best positions or ways to bring a partner to orgasm. Just as we have different personalities, we also have different sex languages and what works to arouse our bodies. By expanding on your erotic education, you will learn the ways that we differ — as individuals and as men/women — and how to speak each other’s language to meet each other to deepen both pleasure and connection.

Some of the things you will learn:

  • Erotic languages and what turns your body on

  • The workings of the female libido and how to stoke its fire

  • Masculine/feminine polarity

  • Arousal anatomy for women and men

  • Expanded orgasm for women and men

  • Delaying ejaculation in men for longer and more pleasurable sex

We learn how to do something differently by doing it differently, not just talking about it — which is why actual practices are key. I introduce different exercises for you to learn about each other and your bodies including hugging practices, explorative touch, and sexual practices such as Orgasmic Meditation (OM) and Tantric massage. Expect to set aside time each day to practice these as you grow new muscles and also use the practices to discover new ways of connecting.

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Couples sex coaching includes:

  • Experiential learning: through action and practice, you learn a different way

  • Real-time feedback: you’ll get honest, straightforward feedback and tools for improvement

  • Transformation of unhelpful habits: you will find freedom from habits that hold you back so you can get the results you want

  • Practice: exercise new muscles with relevant, customized exercises in and between sessions


Want a breakthrough in your sexual relationship?

I get it that sometimes things feel very hard. What I notice working with couples around relationships for the last seven years is that in the beginning, these challenges can feel devastating and impossible to overcome. I know that feeling.

And once we start talking, we have breakthroughs all the time. Even in short conversations, couples begin to feel that something is shifting and changing for the better. I invite you to consider that it’s easier than you think to solve this.

I am here for you! I am offering a free, no-pitch “breakthrough” coaching session to couples who find themselves stuck and want to see a way forward.

We may not get to the core of the problem on this call. But I can certainly tell you something that works, no strings attached. Sign up below and let’s get talking!

 

 

Benefits of Sex Coaching for Couples

For BOTH:

  • Discover each other with connection-deepening conversations and powerful physical/touch practices

  • Work through conflict around sex in a way that brings out the best in both of you and draws you closer

  • Learn about slow sex, sexual presence, sexual polarities and other energetic concepts to enhance your sexual experience

  • Share your desires and experience in a way that turns you on and brings you closer

  • Deepen intimacy in conflict and come towards each other when it feels like you want to pull apart

  • Attune to each other’s energy and create turn-on and passion from ordinary situations

  • Turn communication gridlocks into vulnerable, intimacy-creating moments

  • Create physical and energetic connection to create "all-day foreplay" (and more intimacy)

  • Transform "performance" and "pleasing" modes to experience true intimacy and connection

 

For HER:

  • Communicate deep desires in a way that brings out the best in your partner

  • Feel pleasure in your body and bring energy to your sex and relationship

  • Relax into your feminine presence and let yourself enjoy the experience fully

  • Communicate your deep feelings and emotions in a way that creates trust, connection and turn-on between the two of you

For HIM:

  • Use your deep masculine energy to create trust and safety in the relationship for both of you to open up and create deep sexual fulfillment for both of you

  • Play her body like a music instrument with your body, energy and touch 

  • Powerfully lead in your relationship from a place of deep integrity with your desire (which turns women on)

  • Understand what’s really keeping your woman from opening to you and how you can change that


 
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Irene's exercises and one-on-one coaching has helped us take steps towards where we want to be, rather than trying to fix everything all at once. 

The most important things we've learned have been different approaches to understanding intimacy, from love languages to masculine/feminine dynamics. We've learned how to better communicate and acknowledge feelings instead of talking past each other. Irene has also helped remove the negativity from our thinking about intimacy issues, and gotten us to a place where we think of this as a normal growing pain in a longstanding relationship."

Krystal and Ira, 34 & 38, Married, Int'l Aid Worker & Engineer

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