Pleasure-based Sex Ed for Women:
Sex for Your Pleasure
• • • 10 weeks of life-changing explorations of our pleasure & sexuality in a community of women • • •
It's time for a new kind of sex ed. Sex ed that's not about performance and appearance — but about how you feel. One that places you, the woman, and your pleasure front and center.
Are you craving more information about your body and how to access the depth of pleasure it is capable of?
Do you seek more connection with yourself and your sexuality?
Do you wish you knew how to ask for exactly what you want?
(I mean 100% of what you really really want)
Do you wonder if you're "normal" and want to hear about other women's experiences?
If you've ever felt that sex is like a chore, something to get yourself ready for and do, it's time to make a change! There is a different way.
There’s a way to have sex that renews, energizes, and fulfills women. Sex that is fun and pleasurable. When sex is done with deep regard for the way women’s bodies really work, sex never feels tiring or like work. Instead, it nourishes the body and feeds your soul.
If this is the sex that you've been craving for, you're in the right place, woman!
I've distilled the teachings from my private 1:1 practice to offer this juicy, potent program over 10 weeks in a group-supported setting, where you can learn about yourself and from other women and support each other in a small and safe community. Limited to 8 women.
Next program starts September 11, 2018 on Tuesdays 6-8pm Mountain Standard Time.
Cultivate your sexual energy for more pleasure, desire and connection
When you understand the workings of your sexuality and your body's pleasure anatomy, cultivating it becomes easier — and so does access to physical pleasure and emotional connection.
Feel your desires & trust their power and "rightness"
Do you dread the question "what do you want"? Do you censor yourself or figure out what you should want? Learn to listen to your desire and trust it to lead you to what is right for you.
Tune into deeper pleasure of your body & delight in your sensuality
When you learn about women's anatomy of pleasure and arousal to understand what works for your body, you will be able to tune into deeper pleasure — on your terms. Various pleasure and sensual practices will help you access that pleasure and make it a daily part of your life.
Feel freer and more confident in your body — whatever shape, age or size you are
Even as we want pleasure and affection in our lives, it can be challenging to let ourselves have it. Learn to relax your body and mind and receive pleasure unapologetically, without guilt or shame.
Cultivate confidence to be vulnerable
The bedrock of intimacy is honesty. But how often do you feel less-than-courageous to speak your truth in relationships? And at what cost? Cultivate the confidence and the skills to effectively communicate your needs, feelings, desires, and boundaries in your intimate relationships to build intimacy and connection (and turn-on).
Feel empowered to ask for what you want & in a way that has your partner want to give it to you
How much time do you spend second-guessing what you want? Or what your partner may think of you? Or figuring out if what you feel will hurt their feelings? Cultivate the ability to connect to your inner wisdom and trust your intuition when it comes to intimacy and vulnerability.
Deepen connection with your partner or get ready for your future one
When you become grounded in your desire, pleasure and truth — the hallmarks of a confident, turned-on woman — you radiate your power. Learn to connect deeper with your partner or attract one who'll meet you.
Week 1: Get into the Right Relationship with Your Sexuality
Whatever your background, you probably carry beliefs about sex and sexuality, your body and your desire that shape how you relate in the realm of eros. We begin by evaluating our own views and beliefs and set intentions for how we want to relate to these very important topics.
Group call 1
Tuesday, September 11, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 2: Understand Women's Libido & Pleasure Cycles
Too long we've used male sexuality as a proxy for "sexuality" as a whole, leaving women feeling "less than" for not being as sexual as men. Women's sexuality is different and to understand it, we have to look at sexuality holistically — at our bodies, minds, emotions, hearts and souls. We start with learning about women's libido and how our sexual desire hinges on pleasure — our relationship to it and how much we receive it.
Group call 2
Tuesday, September 18, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 3: Cultivate Sexual Desire
When we're used to beating ourselves up, the gentle, whispering voice of desire (calling for more pleasure) doesn't have a chance. This week, we go deeper, looking at our relationship to desire and pleasure and breaking through barriers to knowing and asking for what we want.
Group call 3
Tuesday, September 25, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 4: Discover Your Female Pleasure Anatomy
Did you know the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, almost three times more than the penis (which means, we're wired with mega pleasure potential)? Did you know it also expands far along the vaginal walls and encompasses the g-spot and other sensitive spots? Did you know that with arousal, the muscles around our mouth also relax to make oral sex more pleasurable? Understanding your body's anatomy and pleasure map is key to accessing deeper pleasure in your body. This is going to be an anatomy less you will not want to miss!
Group call 4
Tuesday, October 2, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 5: Build Your Arousal
Now that we've learned about our body's pleasure anatomy and arousal map, we look at what helps us cultivate arousal and access deeper pleasure in your body and what stands in the way. What acts as brakes and what acts as accelerators. This week, we also look at various self-care pleasure practices that arouse and build your body's energy for deeper sexual satisfaction.
Group call 5
Tuesday, October 9, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 6: Understand Your Erotic Language & Flavor
As we speak different love languages, we also have unique sexual and erotic languages. Some feel like home, others more foreign. We learn about erotic languages and learn to identify our own — as well as our partner’s. When we know our erotic language, we can more easily identify what works for us and how to powerfully ask for it.
Group call 6
Tuesday, October 16, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 7: Masculine/Feminine Polarity
We cannot talk about female sexual desire and pleasure without talking about masculine and feminine energies and dynamics. We're going to explore the masculine and the feminine within you (we all have both qualities, like yin/yang) and learn practices to honor the feminine. If you feel that you're not as connected to your body and pleasure as you'd like and/or you feel that you're lacking energy and drive in sex and the rest of your life, this will be a life-changing module for you.
Group call 7
Tuesday, October 23, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 8: Going Deeper with a Partner — Partner Dynamics
Here, relationship is in the spotlight. You will learn about relational sexual dynamics, what works to keep sexual desire alive and growing in a long-term relationship, and how to stay connected with a partner in difficult moments. Whether you're single or partnered, you will leave with ways to go deeper with a partner or know how to discern whether a potential partner can go deeper with you.
Group call 8
Tuesday, October 30, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 9: Going Deeper with a Partner — Connection Sex
When it comes to sex, continuous exploration and experimentation are key to discovering what works for you and your partner as you grow and grow old together! From learning about each other's bodies to understanding each other's erotic languages, exploration keeps things new, unique and exciting in the bedroom — not to mention builds intimacy and depth in your relating. This week, we talk about partner practices as well as asking for what you want.
Group call 9
Tuesday, November 6, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Week 10: Having Sex for Your Pleasure
This week we bring it all together. What is to have sex for your pleasure? What is sex that is nourishing and touches your heart and soul? And how do we sustain our self-care to build our pleasure? As we wrap up the program, we celebrate each other's journeys and successes.
Group call 10
Tuesday, November 13, 2018 at 6pm MST/8pm EST
Eight hand-picked women in an intimate setting meeting over Zoom
10 weeks of content-rich sessions + coaching and Q&A
on pleasure, sexuality, sex and love that will be recorded for your convenience
Worksheets and exercises
Secret Facebook group for connections within cohort, provoking questions and
more access to me for support
Private 1:1 coaching sessions with me, if you desire more individual support
Live bonus sessions with top sex & sexuality experts
Testimonials from Program Participants
From the moment I signed up for Irene’s Pleasure-Based Sex Ed course, my body shook with fear. I knew I needed to address this area of my life, for myself and for my partnership, but as soon as I said yes I panicked. Before most weeks of the course, I felt resistance to showing up. Yet, time and time again, once in Irene’s presence and with each week of material, I inevitably left each session feeling empowered, hopeful, and informed. Irene is passionate, devoted, skillful, and knowledgable in this vast topic of sex-education ... and is a grounded, organized instructor who is also constantly attuning to her students. I consistently felt attended to, especially when the topics triggered a fear response in the moment.
I noticed changes in my pleasure within days ... I am now acknowledging my desires within myself ... and making enacting them more of a priority, speaking up more during sex to direct touch towards my pleasure or to stop things when they hurt, having more frequent conversations about sex with friends and partner. I do feel more confident both during lovemaking and around trusting that I know what I need, learning to work with our sex life and trusting that my partner and I can evolve together and not be stuck.
I highly recommend this course and working with Irene!
Miriam, 38 • Dance Instructor • Colorado
From Irene’s course, [I learned] to shift my view of what sex is into the reality that sex is a beautiful expansive spacious free flowing experience, one that holds a lot of freedom and pleasure ... [which] opened me up to what’s possible — and what’s possible is both enlivening and healing. This course has taught me to better understand my body, my sexual interests and needs ... in a deep fulfilling way. Everything before has been about the surface of sex ... not what truly nourishes us. This course has firmly planted the seeds for my sexual transformation to unfold. I wish I had this class 15 years ago! I found Irene to be warm, inviting, very knowledgable — and honestly I just love her views and understanding of sex and sexual relational patterns. Without a doubt, this class has changed what sex is for me and my husband for the rest of our lives!
Kristyn, 33 • Married, Stay-at-home Mom • Colorado
10 group calls
Private Facebook community group
Early-bird pricing before August 15
After August 15
GROUP PROGRAM + INDIVIDUAL SUPPORT
10 group calls
Private Facebook community group
3 private 40-min coaching sessions
Early-bird pricing before August 15
After August 15
* Payment plan available
** Super early-bird BONUS of 1-hour private coaching session ($250 value)
if you enroll before August 1, 2018 **
How It Works
When you apply, I'll contact you to set up a free 40-minute consultation call to learn more about you and what you'd like to get out of the program.
To reserve a spot in the program, I will need a payment at the time of the conversation via credit card (full payment required for group program; payment plan available for group program + individual support package).
Once you're in, I will send you an agreement asking you to agree to confidentiality. To ensure everyone's safety as well as growth in this program, your agreement to total confidentiality is crucial. If you cannot agree to confidentiality or know you cannot maintain it, please let me now upfront and you will not be able to participate.
Next step is you'll be added to a private Facebook group. Even as the program starts on in May, we start work right away in the Facebook group. The earlier you join, the more content you will receive.
Each week, we will have 2-hour group sessions, held over the Zoom video platform, and will include a teaching segment, group coaching and Q&A. There will be partnered exercises. All sessions will be recorded and recordings will be made available to you shortly after the calls. You're encouraged to share and participate according to your comfort level.
Should you want additional individualized support, you will be able to buy additional coaching hours once the program starts, on an as-needed basis, in 2-hour segments.
Questions? Contact me at email@example.com
Q: What if I have to miss a couple of sessions? How do I catch up?
All group sessions will be recorded and sent to you shortly after the call. You will also have access to worksheets for follow-up work. The Facebook group is a wonderful way to stay connected to the group and further the learnings, even if you cannot attend some sessions.
Q: Do you offer a refund if I have to drop out half-way?
This is a small intimate group, which means that I cannot find replacements into the group if someone leaves. Should something come up after you enroll and up to two weeks before the program starts, I will offer a refund. There are no refunds less than two weeks before the course and once the program starts.
Q: Sex and sexuality are sensitive topics. What if something happens or someone gets triggered in the group setting?
This is a very important question. The emotional and psychological safety of participants is paramount to the safety of all in this program. Should something arise, such as an emotional trigger, during one of the group sessions, I will take utmost care of the triggered participant by stopping the conversation and attending to their needs as well as the needs of other participants. As a sexuality coach, I am trained to face challenging situations with potential emotional and psychological triggers. If something serious happens, I have therapists to recommend as back-up support.
If you have past psychological conditions, emotional and/or psychological trauma, PTSD, and/or sexual abuse, please disclose these to me before enrolling into the program.
Q: What kind of access do we have to you during the program?
You will get me live during the 2-hour group calls, which includes opportunities for coaching and Q&A.
Between sessions, I will be answering posts in the Facebook group as well as offering weekly office hours.
Should you want more personalized attention from me, the combined package of group work and 1:1 coaching is the best way to get more time with me.
Q: Is this program for coupled women or single?
First and foremost, this program is about YOU and your relationship with your sexuality. There will be portions when we will talk about relationships, and both single and coupled women will benefit greatly from these conversations.
Q: What is the difference between sex coaching and sex therapy?
What Clients Say about Our Work Together
Before coaching with Irene, I had been with my now husband, whom I love very much, for over 10 years, but I was frustrated that I didn't want sex. I felt abnormal, self conscious, and I felt bad that I was neglecting this area for him. After a few sessions with Irene, I understand much more about myself as a whole (not just in regards to sex). As a result, I feel like I am becoming a better version of myself in all areas of life — it has been awakening in many ways.
Jennifer, Nurse Practitioner, married & mother of 2
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I see myself completely differently. My love for myself (and realization that I matter) has grown tremendously. I don’t feel numb anymore. I don’t hold back as much. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I feel powerful and magnetic. What I am most proud of is my openness to talk with my husband about things I was afraid to ask for before. My relationship is hotter, more fun, sexier, exciting. Coaching with Irene has been fun, and the most valuable coaching I’ve ever gotten.
Suzan, Relationship Coach