Sex & Intimacy Coaching for Women
what you're going through is a call to
step into your sexual power?
What if low libido was your soul's way of telling you that you're not being authentic and in integrity with yourself?
What if painful sex was your body's was telling you that the way you've been treating your body in sex is not working?
What if your feeling shy in bed is a message from the Universe that you are keeping your light and aliveness away from your partner?
What if your sexual problems are the way you're being called to unlock your deepest satisfaction and passion?
I get it. You probably feel disappointed and sad that your body is not there for you when you want it. You are used to seeing yourself as broken and less than other women. And it's hard in this place to imagine that what you're experiencing is anything other than a problem to be fixed.
to stay strong and figure this out on your own ...
Maybe you've talked to experts in the field – gynecologists, therapists – who told you there's nothing wrong with you and that it's normal not to feel as much pleasure in sex as men. Maybe you've been told that it's ok to not feel sexual after menopause. But you know that something is really wrong with this advice.
Maybe you've spent thousands on self-help books, audios and group programs and found some inspiration but little change in your body. And you want personalized attention.
Maybe you've done nothing at all but wished and prayed that your sex life could change.
If you're a single woman in your midlife and you:
:: Want to participate in the pleasure and aliveness of sex – exactly how you want it: soulfully, wholeheartedly, passionately?
:: Ready to stop avoiding, taming, dumbing down or ignoring your truest and deepest feminine nature and desires (however messy they seem) and let yourself be free from inhibitions?
:: Crave feeling turned on and desirous and excited for love-making again?
:: Yearn to connect authentically and intimately with your partner or attract one who will meet and appreciate you sexually?
for the guidance and mentorship to ...
Feel amazing by having sex that works for your body
Feel confident to ask for what you really want …
Share your feelings, needs, desires, and your truth freely …
Be free to play, connect and live without guilt, doubt, tension, and anxiety …
Attract a caring and respectful partner who will want to explore, experience and share in the excitement of your sexual pleasure with you …
I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. You simply want more! And there is no better person to tell you this than me, because I’ve been in your shoes before.
Today, I am a sex coach. A decade ago, I had just ended my sexless marriage and I was looking for a sex coach to help me fix my "sexual problems": not being able to orgasm, painful sex, and a general lack of that sexual feeling.
My personal story is a common one. At age 25, I met the man who became my husband. It was love at first sight, and we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Once we settled into our relationship, I started noticing changes in our sex life.
Where there used to be fun and excitement, I became aware of that empty, eventually resentful, feeling when he orgasmed but I didn't. I yearned to ask for more, wished and prayed inside that he would touch me differently, but fear took over, and I stayed silent.
My body started changing too. First, I lost my lubrication. The gynecologist suggested using lube, so we continued having sex, without my awareness that I wasn't turned on. Then intercourse turned painful. We barely talked about it, just in passing as I went in and out of doctors' appointments trying to figure out “what was wrong" with me. Eventually, I "lost my libido" and any desire to be touched or touch. And I couldn't get it back.
I blamed myself for not being feminine enough. I felt broken for not being orgasmic. And I felt numb — numb to excitement and passion for my own life.
Yet at 30 years of age, I wondered...
Is that it for me? Why don't I want sex like other women?
Am I not meant to enjoy sex?
Eventually, my husband and I divorced. Without the emotional tools I have today, we couldn't find connection to stay together.
I was devastated and found myself sliding into depression for several years. I tried dating (I really wanted a relationship) and found myself either shutting down in anxiety or in tears when it came to anything sexual. I avoided any sexual touch or connection, even eye contact, as I feared that I'd initiate something sexual that I didn't want. To numb the loneliness and pain, I focused on work and outside activities (and a lot of shopping!).
Little did I know then that my loss of libido and sexual struggles set me on a path to discover what intimacy and sexuality really meant for me.
I heard the wake up call. Knowing there had to be a better way of living, I walked into a sex coach's office to tell her that I wanted a different way to do sex that free of anxiety, shutdown and tears.
And I discovered that instead of having a low libido in the pathological sense, I had never had a connection to my body, which stopped me from asking from what I really wanted and feeling free to express myself with joy and openness as I was born to express.
The missing ingredient from my sexuality had been a deep connection and honoring of my body and who I am.
Working with a sex coach, I delved into intense self-discovery work. I voraciously studied various sexuality practices and learned to awaken my body to pleasure (yes, our bodies do go numb) and tap into pleasure I only dreamt of.
I set the intention to live my life by these three tenets: desire, pleasure & truth. I pledged to stay true to my desire and values, cultivate pleasure as nourishment, and speak my truth unconditionally.
My sexual journey taught me what it means to be in integrity with myself — by saying "no" to what does not feel true to me and what does not honor who I am and has led the way to deep life satisfaction and joy.
My journey and my studies in sexuality, relationships, mindfulness, somatic awareness, neuroscience and trauma release work are the foundation of my coaching program that I offer here to you.
You deserve to …
I invite you to join me on this journey to
Open to deeper and more satisfying emotional and sexual intimacy
Embrace your eroticism and find your turn-on within
Become a confident lover for your pleasure, so you never have to wonder if you’re good enough.
Access Your Desire
Uncover what you deeply want for yourself: the kind of touch, affection, and love communication that turns you on
Remove roadblocks of guilt, shame or self-doubt that stand in the way of you having what you want
Connect to your body's wisdom and sexual energy through somatic (body-based) practices
Learn what feels good to you and how to receive pleasure (and get out of your head while making love)
Work through fears, guilt and shame that are holding you back from surrendering deeply into pleasure and orgasm
Relax into your body and your sensuality
Nourish your body and soul to bring out your natural radiance and shine
Speak Your Truth
Get comfortable speaking your truth in a way that your partner will listen
Release resentments and hurts from the past to connect to your partner or magnetize partners that you deeply desire
Surrender deeply into relationship without losing yourself and compromising your integrity
Learn the power of authentic communication and desire to turn each other on
Sex Coaching for Women
Sex coaching combines the power of coaching and creating change with the deep understanding of sexual and sex dynamics. What is sex coaching?
My Clients Are Women Like You
My clients are women, 30-50 years old, in a heterosexual relationship or seeking one. They live all over the world: the U.S., Europe, Canada, Turkey, and even Australia, and we work together via Internet Phone or Zoom.
Singled or coupled, my clients come from different walks of life, but they have one thing in common: they want to live life as a fully-expressed sexual woman. What stands out about them is their tenacious commitment to their own growth and their pleasure. Even though they all walk into the door with fear, they don't let it stop them.
If you're coupled, I offer a combination approach of individual and couples sessions. Couples work includes working on deepening connection and intimacy, so that you and your partner can feel closer to each other and explore sexual pleasure together. I only work with coupled women as part of a couple.
If you're single, you definitely don't have to wait until you meet your partner to work on being fully expressed sexually. In fact, this is the perfect time to work on you and what you want, so that you can meet the partner that you desire.
What Clients Have to Say
"I feel I am more of a co-creator in my life. I feel lovable, worthy, grateful, excited and engaged in my life."
"My ignition is in my control. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I’m more awake and alive ... and I feel powerful and magnetic."
"I feel a healthy rebellion in my life ... like nothing is actually broken. This is a welcome thought and a new one. I believe it's a strong sign of my healing."
I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out!
I reached out to Irene after struggling on my own for years, but wanting to make a change before my wedding. My fiancé and I went through some challenging times, and I was feeling stuck and unable to move past old hurts. For years I had been slowly building up walls, and separating myself both emotionally and physically, even though I wanted nothing but closeness and intimacy deep down. Irene made me feel at ease right away: she has a way of guiding you to answers you didn't know you had inside you. After only a couple of months of working together, I am now able to reach for my partner when I need him. I have shed the fear of not being good enough for my partner. I have realized some inner truths, like I am tired of trying to control everything, and the messy side of my personality is dying to come out! I have transformed from rigid to soft, from closed off to open, and from insecure in my relationship to more confident and connected than ever. Irene has provided the safe space I needed to process, and move forward. I can't wait to see what the coming months hold for our work together!
Sarah, 33 • Engaged • Marketing Director • Denver, CO
I feel fully alive, vital and sexy. My relationship with my husband is hotter … sexier … exciting.
I see myself completely differently. My love for myself (and realization that I matter) has grown tremendously. I don’t feel numb anymore. I don’t hold back as much. I feel fully alive and vital and sexy. I feel powerful and magnetic. What I am most proud of is my openness to talk with my husband about things I was afraid to ask for before. My relationship is hotter, more fun, sexier, exciting. Coaching with Irene has been fun, and the most valuable coaching I’ve ever gotten.
Suzan Acker, 44 • Relationship Coach • Ottawa, Canada
Irene helped me find and connect, mind and body, to the woman I knew was inside.
I had spent years in my head and totally disconnected from my body. I felt flat. I knew I wanted to feel differently but I wasn't sure what to do about it. Irene helped me to zero in on how I wanted to feel within my body, then name and claim those desires. I laughed, cried, cussed, and got turned on! Working with Irene was nothing short of transformational. Don't let her sweet voice fool you though, she's tough ... and you'll love her for it!
Stephanie, 40 • Artist & Mother of 2 • Nebraska