Interview: On Sex, Intimacy, and the Necessity of Pleasure

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Emily Schromm of the Meathead Hippy Podcast interviews Irene Fehr on everything from sexual shame, to open relationships to the necessity of pleasure.

Listen to the podcast: http://emilyschromm.com/blog/meathead-hippie-podcast-56-irene-fehr-sex-intimacy-and-necessity-pleasure

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Content Summary

6:30 The Start of Irene’s Life’s Work

  • Feeling disconnected and uninformed on how to confront your own sexuality

  • The effects of alienation that occur between couples when sex is not addressed

11:00 A Cultural Problem in Stigmas

  • Identifying the needs of both men and women

  • “Most people have sex with internal walls around them.”

14:30 Checking In with Your Mindset

  • Our culture’s perception on sex and coming from a place of brokenness

  • Finding out what arouses you and knowing that you deserve to ask for exactly what you want

16:00 How to Approach Shame

  • “The idea that “sex is bad” has been planted by us.”

  • Reclaiming the authority of our bodies through rewiring our bodies to enjoy pleasure

21:30 The Root Chakra and Sex Connection

  • Acknowledging that sex is a necessity to life and creation

  • “Sex is fundamental to who we are and our need to be rooted.”

27:30 Communication Barriers and Building Trust

  • Creating a safe place to feel risky… It’s all about being transparent with your partner

  • “Relational issues need relational solutions.”

34:00 When Things Shift in Your Sex Life

  • Explaining how sex can go from uninhibited fun to an a sense of discomfort

  • The stakes grow as the relationship deepens, pulling away the transparency

37:30 Monogamous Vs. Polyamorous

  • The possibility to push you out of your comfort zone and evaluating your own values of exploration and commitment

41:30 Nude Photography

  • A beautiful step towards showing yourself and showing TO yourself

  • The incredibly powerful feeling of freedom to be fully naked and to be seen for who you are

43:30 How to Improve Your Sex Life

  • Following “the daily pleasure quota” by focusing on what fills you up in terms of pleasure

  • “Being able to say ‘no’ is your biggest sexual power.”

47:15 Sex Drive After Kids

  • How relationships change and rebuilding trust by identifying patterns that need to be addressed

  • Acknowledging how these changes have impacted your partner

52:30 Regaining Your Sexy Mojo

  • Tips on how to connect yourself to pleasure

  • Doing things that feel good for your body

56:30 Irene’s “Sex For Your Pleasure” Course

  • Offers modules on arousal and masculine/feminine dynamics

  • A program structured to empower you and reclaim your sexual sovereignty

61:00 Spirit Animal